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Quote From: lilliesmommie

lets start this by saying that i didn't lose my mother or father but  on sept. 19 i lost my uncle due to cancer, on Oct. 2 i lost my grandfather due to cancer and the most recent was Nov. 8 my fiance lost his uncle due to a massive heart attack while he was at work. now the last one even though he was not immediate family he was still family. I just don't know how to deal with it all. I cried over them but i haven't really grieved as of this moment. everyone tells me that it will come when i least expect it. I want it to go ahead and be over with. I know that  each and everyone of them would not want for us to grieve over this, they would want us to be happy. I feel like i have to hide it all because i have a 16 month old daughter and i don't want her to see me like that. So i am being strong for her sake. I live 400 miles away from my family and even though we are close to his family i don't feel like i have a big support system here like i would with my family. His mom gets depressed at the drop of a hat. I have severe depressive disorder and i am borderline bi-polar so in some sense i know how she feels. but i can't talk to her because i don't want to upset her with how i am feeling. if anyone has any ideas of how i can take the time to grieve and not make my daughter have to go through it please let me know