Replies to 'Teens and Sex'

I guess that depends on how old you are?  At least it would to me as a parent.  How old is your boyfriend as well? 

  

Depending on how old you both are I would talk to them, tell them how you feel and and how you feel about it, ie:  you don't want a baby, you use birth control, you were both tested for std's, ect.  IF you havent' broken the promise tell them that, but tell them that you want thier acceptance.  Again this all depends on how old you are.  If you break up with this person do they realize the next person could be someone who is not as mature and responsble. someone with an std?   

  

I also think you know their is plenty of things you can do other then having sex.  I also think your erge to have sex will go away after a while.   

  

Keep us informed! 

You didn't mention your age of you and your boyfriend so I'm not sure how old you are.  I will tell you though based on my life that it is a hard thing to deal with.  These feelings are normal.  Your parents are looking out for what is best for you.  You are still young and there is plenty of time in life for sex.  I don't know where you stand religiously, but the bible does tell us to wait until marriage.  It makes sense.  There is more to love and being in a relationship than sex.  I think lately society is making sex too casual.  Sex is supposed to be a sacred thing.  Yes you love your boyfriend and I totally understand you there.  You do not have to have sex just because you are in love.  If you need to continue to have sex with him to keep him around, I'm not so sure it is even love on his side.  It is very common that women give sex to get love and men tend to give love to get sex.  Sex has a way of clouding true feelings and it actually can hurt a healthy relationship.  It is good that you are being careful to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD's, but there are other reasons for waiting.   Also at a young age it is not likely that you will spend the rest of your life with him.  I know you may want to but you have to realize that it may not happen.  The statistic I think is that you will have 3 new partners per year.  Think about your age now and the age you think you will be when you get married.  Do you think that is appropriate?  If you give in to your temptations now, when will it stop.  True strength comes from resisting the temptation and going for the longer goals.  If your relationship was meant to be, it will be stronger and better if you wait and build your relationship with out the sex. 

Hey I sorta of have the same problem. Since I was in grade 9, I've liked this boy name Joey.  But he had a girlfriend. I was insanely jealous about this. Needless to say they broke up last June. In July he got into some trouble and found himself in juvenile detention. He emailed me and  asked me for my number telling me he was in brookeside(juvenile detention). So I gave it to him I was so stoked for him to call. He called and he got out October 29th the next I went over to his place. I must remind you I was a virgin when we started hanging out. My parents know that he was in jail for smoking weed. They know he is sexually active. My mom hates him even though she hasn't met him. My dad has an openmind ... he said as long he didnt smoke it around me ... it was fine. He said he knew I was getting older and I would experience sex. The time has just passed I lost my virginity to him last month on the 18th. I haven't told my dad. I dont know how to tell him. I definately dont want to tell my mom she will flip she hates Joey and doesn't want me around him. 

 

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