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November 17, 2006, 8:43 pm PST
Sleep Issues
Quote From: samandmaggiewe are a family that consists of mom, son and step dad. real father is in his life, just lives afar and does not have great opportunity for visitation, mainly just phone calls now and again. the 5 year old is very 'mommy' loved!! every chance he will tell her so.... and is always calling for her to do everything. that might be an underlining issue to the recent crying and whining at bedtime. he seems to call out several times while trying to go to sleep, and crys alot in between. we have asked him several times what we can do, and yet he will not answer, or will seem to have a 'fake' answer to why he was crying (i.e. the pillow was on the floor, or his sheets are not straight)
we have a routine bed time, and a routine at bedtime. he is in bed by 8pm and mom will tuck him in. they will kiss, hug, and he will say ' miss you, see you tomorrow, night night, love you, miss you, see you in morning, sweet dreams, miss you, love you. over and over, with her having to repeat that sequence untill the light is out. even then he will say it louder as she leaves the room.
the step dad sorta feels left out, and has tried to be the 'tucker' at bed time; however, it will turn into a real fit if she is here and is not the one to make it happen. step dad thinks maybe he needs to participate more, but does not want to make the kid resent him for 'getting between the two'
any suggestions?!! comments My husband does the bed time routine most of the time but I have my "special" time witt the girls as well. The step dad can be involved , figure out a time and activity that step dad can do with the son, make sssssure the son knows that it is a specil thing between step dad and him. My oldest daughter is in school and sometimes my 3 year old feels a littel left out casue she wants to go to school as well, so to make things alittel bit more easier, She has a special activity that sister doesn't know about, it's simple but it is three year olds thing and she knows it. she gets to stand at the sink and play in the water and bubbles, doing her thing, it gets messy butit is her thing for when sister is away and she has mommy all to herself. We make that activity special.
I go out just about every Satuirday all by myself but on accasions I will take one of the girls with me, that is mommy and daughter time,t he following week, I take the other out twith me, they love the one on one whether it is mommy or daddy, gotta figure out what makes the child tick and use it for your advantage.
can also have a family story time wheich works with our family as well, when we are done, daddy takes the girlies to bed and sometimes it is by giving piggy back rides, my oldest is almost 6 and loves those rides,LOL. gotta be creative and make the activity fun.
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