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November 20, 2006, 11:34 pm PST
 Quote From: emmasonlym My brother is a 69 yr old sociopathic, narcissitic, pathologic liar! And that's his good side. He had been living on the beach in cal. in a $1400.00 a month apartment. He had been there for 22 years, doing pot daily, and drinking and using cocaine when he could get it. He started calling my husband and myself about three months ago with tales of woe that included his loss of job, being evicted from his apt. and that he had no money or credit cards left. He said that he had made the decision that he "needed" to move back to Wisconsin to find a cheap apt. and maybe some kind of work. He wanted to stay with us until he could get on his feet. He did have a 1989 lexus, and thought it would make the trip. This is the same man who was the perpetrator of my sexual abuse. I get sick to my stomach every time I had to see him(funerals,etc.). Well, to make a long story boring, we decided to give him the benifit of the doubt. After all he was an old man now, so how much damage could he do? We were all he had. He drove to Wi. and proceeded tp sit in my husband's recliner with the remote in hand. He never moved for two months!! He ate us out of house and home, found fault with every apt. he saw, and we didn't see any end in sight. I thought my husband was going to kill him!, and when I told him early on, that I was not going to cook for him or do his laundry, He started eating breakfast out every day. EVERY DAY!!! Bythe 31st of Oct, 2006, 8 weeks since he arrived, we told him to leave. Then the tears came. He had nowhere to go, no money, and he couldn't take the cold weather.!! Anyway, he contacted his drug dealer in Ca. and she told him he could stay with her, and she would "help" him. HA!! Help him further down, that is. Last we heard,he burned her out, and is now somewhere in Arizona. Thank God he is no longer in our hair The funny thing is, I am mental health, and AODA counselor. Thank God I know better than to say I should have known better. There's something about family. You always want to give it just one more try!!! No more "This is the same man who was the perpetrator of my sexual abuse." Your brother sexually abused you, you know he's a drug user, you know he's a bum and you let him live with you?!?!?!?! I'm glad you got him out of there....but I don't care if I share DNA with a person...I was sexually abused by my half brother and he lives in the same area I do. I see him occasionally and I never speak to him. I had to, ONE TIME, tell him that I never want him to attempt talking to me, contacting me, acting like he knows me or even ****ing looking in my general direction. I had to tell him this just once. His family knows better then to come close to even thinking about talking to me, let alone asking me for help. He got all he was going to get out of me when he molested me. I owe him nothing more. Not the time of day, not my spit if he's on fire. Maybe you're a better person than I am. He's my family, technically...but I have no interest or drive to give him anything. There are actually deserving people in the world if I feel the need to help someone. DNA means nothing. |
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