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November 25, 2006, 7:52 am PST
 Quote From: butterflies omg, my Thanksgiving was absolutly TERRIBLE. It was horrible. People DID notice that I didnt eat very much. Then my aunt came up behind me and started rubbing my back and she said "your nothing but bones girl. Your hollow. You need to eat." Everybody was standing right there and then everyone just started agreeing with her and saying "We know. Shes right." It was a NIGHTMARE. The only thing that was fun was playing with my neice. I never want to see any of them again. -Amber Brooke I am so sorry it was such a catastrophe...but its over now. Just remember these people really do care about you. Their comments may have been rude and insensative but all they know is someone they care about has a problem. Depending on how old your relatives are - their comments can be really almost funny. Believe I have heard them all before myself. When I was young I would end up running off to my bedroom in tears and not come out until everyone had left. Then I went through a phase of I am not coming out of my room PERIOD - I would not sit down to dinner, wouldn't talk to anyone (except my 2 neices) I thought by my not being there everything would be OK - believe it was not attention seeking behavior. I wanted to be invisible.
As an anorexic adult I used to feel the same way - I would not eat in public, no family dinners. Once I got to the root of my eating disorder I took whole new stand on things (and I know you are tired of my saying this but)..... ITS THEIR PROBLEM NOT MINE And to pour a little salt on a few wounds my relatives would tell me as I sit there in a wheelchair YOU DID THIS TO YOURSELF...YOU'RE TO BLAME" see what not eating did to you, you damn near killed yourself, now you will be in a wheelchair the rest of your life...blah blah blah That is when you decide you will do whatever it takes to prove people wrong. You work your butt off to regain your strength, rebuild muscles and take that first step. Now I am wheelchair free, my anorexia is under control & my family can kiss my rear. Yes they know I feel this way. But I am A LOT older than you are, I can say that !
Amber Brooke, its time you dig down deep and find a way to get control of yourself. You have to prove to YOURSELF and to everyone else that you are a strong, vibrant young woman, full of compassion, and motivation. You can do this. Be strong - you don't have to be nasty to anyone You are worth being heard and listened to, your opinions count. Keep yourself open to the opinions and comments of others - good advice is out there. But don't let anyone bully you. Your parents love you - you may not like what they have to say especially where anorexia is concerned. But please respect their views - they don't want their daughter to die. None of us want anything but happiness and success for you - but you have to want that too. And its totally up to you to find a way to achieve self respect, success and happiness - they are choices that only YOU can make. You know I will help you all I can, we all will. But it has to come from you way down deep inside. Big Hugs Brenda
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