Quote From: newzealandMy payoff is the same, and I can learn from ladies like you, (I have not long turned 30).
It rather strange who so many mothers can say such easy/quick words that are so hurtful, my mother was alway they "It's a shame you've put on so much weight, you used to be so beautiful..."
Well I have my own daughter to protect and love now.. so I have to start learning how to look after myself... so that she can learn by example... After a few years of coping with depression and the weight being a factor, I now finally feel beautiful and am getting healthy.
SOmetimes when I listen to big people I sometimes hear stuff that sounds so childish. I finally figured out that my mom is more screwed up than me because she was never taught how to deal with life or her emotions. She had so many losts in her life and so did my dad. Can you believe that my dad truly believed that his dad had deserted him and when he died at 70 years old, he never knew the truth. His mom had run off with him when he was 3 years old with another man and left his 5 sisters with their dad. My dad never forgave him because if he ever questioned his mom's truth to him.
Have you read SELF MATTERS? THat book and it's companion workbook is just fabulous!!! It helped me to grow up and become an adult -- I still have a way to go because I lack experience but I'm working hard at responding to life as an adult now.
