Replies to '11/30 Spoiled and Entitled'

Yes it's a difficult one, but you need to stay out of it, it's your daughter's choice, she is living with this man, and your job is to love the grandchild and love your daughter but stay out of the criticisms of her husband. I am sure she realises her mistake but she is being responsible , and  you really need to just be loving and non judgemental over this situation. Her husband's mother probably realises her mistake too, but she is also holding onto her son, by paying for all these things. This is probably her way of staying involved in your lives.

Your daughter will feel more comfort and love for you if you don't condem him.

If the burden of carrying her husband becomes too much and she then asks you for help, then you have the right to offer help to her, in what ever form you want to.

Even if your daughter complains about him to you, just listen and don't suggest anything that might be used against you, because ultimately she will stick by her husband and you will be on the outer then.

 Yup, you are right, keep my mouth shut and stay out of it, and this is what we have tried to do over the last 3 years.  I warned her initially that his behavior and patterns in life were not conducive to someone with a strong work ethic and integrity. However, by all indications and what other's say about those who do what he is doing  this man/child that is my daughters husband, has some serious problems. 

I will do as you have suggested, and love my daughter and granddaughter, be here for her if her world falls apart, but it sure is hard to have any respect for a man who does not support himself.

I try not to judge people, however, those who have integrity and a hard work ethic, don't mooch off of others. This person has neither of this characteristics, and I believe it will trickle down into how he treats my daughter and granddaughter.  That scares me.

EXCELLENT ADVICE you gave the man!  BRAVO!

He's in a lose-lose situation. He hates what he's witnessing (it's his precious daughter), but he'll pay the price if he meddles in her business when she hasn't asked for help. If he raised his daughter well, she already knows she's married to a bum and she will eventually tire of him.

Poor grandparents; they have to remain silent so often these days or risk losing their grandchildren. I feel their pain even though my children are still young.