Replies to '11/30 Spoiled and Entitled'

I was not a tough love parent but I did mean what I said and after only a few times kids catch on, but parents are not smart enough to catch on and they raise brats.

I have found that I have many friends who have dogs who are so spoiled that they are uncontrollable when left alone!

These pets are darling and I love them, but they like kids are spoiled and not socialized! My ex husband's dog is the oppoisite, we had the same idea about parenting and raised really wonderful children and nowjhe has a great dog and Mac is socialized. 

What I see with pets I think relates to parents who are out of control. Whether it's pets or kids the adult has lost control. I have one friend who will not travel or let anyone else take care of her Pittypat. When Pittypat dies then she will travel and go to a church related weekend. One of my other friends has had to resort to getting a pen for her little Scottie when she is gone. He would eat chocolates on the bed and get into other really funny things when she is home but I am trying to convince them they need to get socialized by taking classes.

Thier lives are controlled by having to get home because their pet will be upset if they are gone too long!!!

Start early and be loving but firm and have boundries with children and pets and your life will be much easier.

My ex and I were divorced when our children were very little but we loved them more than we loved ourselves. Our whole philosophy was loving them and teaching them to be good people. During all twelve years of Catholic school we both were there and those who didn't know us thought we were still married. We had the same mind set and same ideas about raising children. Our children are now 31 and almost 34 and are really well educated and triving human beings and are thoughtful and loving to us. 

Bobster in Nashville