Quote From: capersmamaI so agree with you!
I often joke (tongue in cheek) that I have such a hateful MIL that God has made sure I have to turn the tables and be a good mother in law..he gave me 4 sons and a daughter to make up for the witchy stuff my mother in law pulled.
If we aren't part of the solution..we are definately part of the problem!
Whether it's a miserable MIL who thinks our role is to please her or someone else's adult child who believes a wedding / parenthood elevated them to a position of power and we exist to meet their expectations... it's the same thing - ridiculous.
I spent a few years trying to get along with my husband's family (my joke is they'd bury me in the back yard if they thought they could get away with it, although they did like me at one time). But they viewed me as an 'asset' to them instead of hubby's wife and spent an enormous amount of time letting me know it was them & him and my place was in the back of the bus. It was a shock to them when I got off and they've never forgiven me since. The moral of that story... make sure you're striving for what you want because you may achieve it. :)
I've been married thirty-six years now and that was many, many years ago, have continued to treat them well but I've had a lot of serenity accepting the fact that we're not important to each other and I feel the same way about being a MIL. Bottom line is the basic set of life laws apply to everyone... simplifies being part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
