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November 27, 2006, 1:55 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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I don't believe our children need to learn everything by "experience".   This "experience"  can be had when they are older.  What is it with parents that feel their children need to learn to say no to drugs (or whatever else) by actually experiencing it?  I get so frustrated that we feel we have the right to submit our children to all of the crap that is out there in order to prepare them for the real world.  This world is getting worse every day - protect, protect, protect.  Protect by giving them all of the knowledge necessary to make wise decisions.  When you feel they are ready then we start to let go -I'm not sure age 5 or 6 (school age) is that age for my child.

I agree.
I was in public school, and it may be worthy of note that I wasn't actually offered drugs for the first time until I was in my 20s.

My parents didn't drink alcohol, save for the occasional glass of wine if they went to a social occasion, but even then they drank about 1/4 of it, sipping to avoid looking the part of a prude.  So we didn't have a "liquor cabinet" in our house.  Does that mean I was ill-equipped to make responsible decisions about alcohol?

My parents never smoked, and likewise I was never offered cigarettes from anyone.  Does that mean I didn't have the experience to make a wise decision because nobody tried to push it on me?

My parents were never arrested, neither was I.  Does that mean I have no clue that there may be some people who break the law?

That aside, nobody in our society is exempt from these things.  A close relative of mine was taught about drugs via a guest speaker at his school. He came home, and his mother and he had the heart to heart talk about it.  He wound up using drugs and nearly destroyed his life, but for the grace of God and love of his family who helped him with the painful process of getting off drugs.

The fact that many in our society today use drugs is not evidence that they were either unschooled, not educated about it, or failed to have the heart to heart about it.  Drugs is a choice people either say yes or no to.

 
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November 27, 2006, 2:37 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

Quote From: janiesmith

I don't believe our children need to learn everything by "experience".   This "experience"  can be had when they are older.  What is it with parents that feel their children need to learn to say no to drugs (or whatever else) by actually experiencing it?  I get so frustrated that we feel we have the right to submit our children to all of the crap that is out there in order to prepare them for the real world.  This world is getting worse every day - protect, protect, protect.  Protect by giving them all of the knowledge necessary to make wise decisions.  When you feel they are ready then we start to let go -I'm not sure age 5 or 6 (school age) is that age for my child.

One more thing I wanted to address:
When I was in highschool in the late 70s and early 80s,  "drug education" among education and support for other "teen problems" was a big thing in the schools we went to.  It was advertised Canada wide.  Buses had posters strewn all over them for drug "help lines", 1-800 numbers were set up. 

"Just Say No" drug awareness campaign was started by Nancy Reagan shortly after I graduated (over TWENTY years ago), targeting grades 8-12.

I don't know how effective such programs are in individual areas, but I do cringe and shake my head every time I turn on the news to find another person killed by Drunk Driving, and I've noted the age of the driver every time as being within the range of 6 years older or younger than myself.
I don't think these were all homeschooled as children.  I'd not be surprised if some were, but given that public schooling is the norm, I'd say that regardless of the education these people received in their teens, they made their own choices.

 


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