Quote From: kimikomineI apologize for my ignorance. I now understand that a sex addict does not merely just "fantasize" but it is a driving force. Like drugs, right? A person that tries heroin might do it for one time "just to see" but if they like it and it brings a level of escape from the feelings, life, whatever is going on, they will do again. So in fact, if a person wants to just try it, then it is a one time deal vs. a person that does it one time, does it twice, three and four times, until its no longer a fantasy but a reality. So a sex addict would not be satisfied with a threesome one time.....I never thought of it that way.
Wow. I am sorry you are going through this. I was once addicted to drugs and I know how difficult it is to stop. I will keep you in my prayers and thank you for explaining in more detail. Kimi
Hi all. Been a while since I've posted.
I know that for me, the MOST difficult part of recovery from sexual addiction has been changing my inner dialogue. A man's initial reaction to seeing an attractive woman (or scantily clad woman or a love scene or whatever) is biological, something that one can't really be accountable for, but after that, it's up to me to recognize that further thoughts or fantasies about that person are destructive to me and I am powerless to them. It's not easy to change thought patterns that have been in place as a defense mechanism since puberty. I've used pornography, masturbation, etc as a way to feel better (or to feel good) for the majority of my life. It's not an easy thing to actually confront feelings and deal with them like a 'normal' or healthy person when all I've known is my addiction.
