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July 26, 2005, 3:36 pm PDT
 Quote From: snoopy974 Don't do it if you don't like him looking at porn. You can make him change this temporarily, but not forever. A guy that looks at porn will allways have the desire to look at porn. You can't make him change that. If you try, it might work for awhile. But he will only be supressing it and eventually he will go out and find it again. And then you will have to deal with it then. Also, if you make him quit, then he won't be himself and, therefore, will be living a lie. He won't be his ownperson, he will be what you want him to be. How long do you think it will take for him to get tired of living that way? Then, you may have to deal with him having affairs and such. And when might that be? After you have allready had kids? When you knew in the first place that he liked looking at porn and you kept him from it. You kept him from being himself. I personally allow my husband to look at porn. I know he loves me and only me. It doesn't bother me. I know he is going to bed with me at night and he won't be fantasizing that I am one of them. Men love sex and looking at females. If you keep him happy at home, then he won't venture out and find what is missing in his life. If you let him look at the women online and give him great sex, he will allways be by your side. Men love sex, they gotta have it, and they WILL get it, however they have to. Wouldn't you rather him be getting it at home and in front of you than out there somewhere behind your back? P.S. Looking at porn online, on video, or in magazines IS NOT CHEATING. Going out and having sex with other women IS. You women need to get that straight and lighten up, and quit being so insecure. It's a normal natural thing for men to do this. Any man that doesn't like to look a naked women is very strange to me. I would think that something was wrong with him. I have to agree that if she does not approve of him looking at porn that she should not marry him. However I dis agree with you very strongly that all men have no self control over there sex lives. We all have choice men and women You are saying that your husband is in your bed every night and that looking at porn is not a problem. I challenge you to find out if you are the one he sees when he is having sex with you! I doubt it..the images are of the porn girls!! And it is wrong and I am a pretty opened minded recovering person who believes in a high power who I choose to call God I have been sober for almost 10 years and to ejaculate is to have sex. Iam sorry but you are dead wrong IT IS CHEATING! GOD MADE MAN AND HE MADE WOMEN TO BE TOGETHER NOT BY OURSELVES. It's not normal to have sex with yourself. Humans have made what God intended to be good UGLY and Nasty. |
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July 26, 2005, 4:40 pm PDT
Quote From: snoopy974 Don't do it if you don't like him looking at porn. You can make him change this temporarily, but not forever. A guy that looks at porn will allways have the desire to look at porn. You can't make him change that. If you try, it might work for awhile. But he will only be supressing it and eventually he will go out and find it again. And then you will have to deal with it then. Also, if you make him quit, then he won't be himself and, therefore, will be living a lie. He won't be his ownperson, he will be what you want him to be. How long do you think it will take for him to get tired of living that way? Then, you may have to deal with him having affairs and such. And when might that be? After you have allready had kids? When you knew in the first place that he liked looking at porn and you kept him from it. You kept him from being himself. I personally allow my husband to look at porn. I know he loves me and only me. It doesn't bother me. I know he is going to bed with me at night and he won't be fantasizing that I am one of them. Men love sex and looking at females. If you keep him happy at home, then he won't venture out and find what is missing in his life. If you let him look at the women online and give him great sex, he will allways be by your side. Men love sex, they gotta have it, and they WILL get it, however they have to. Wouldn't you rather him be getting it at home and in front of you than out there somewhere behind your back? P.S. Looking at porn online, on video, or in magazines IS NOT CHEATING. Going out and having sex with other women IS. You women need to get that straight and lighten up, and quit being so insecure. It's a normal natural thing for men to do this. Any man that doesn't like to look a naked women is very strange to me. I would think that something was wrong with him. How about sending stuff for your favorite lingerie model? Such as self-made music CDs, lingerie etc. And contacting her via e-mail and phone. I feel the same way you do for the most part, but I feel cheated when my husband did just those things while I was gone for few days to visit my family. Even though he has never actually met this person, he obviously spends a lot of time and money on her (several hrs per day on her web-site). However, he pays a ton of attention to me, I feel like the most beautiful woman on earth, I never need to starve for sex or attention. I don't think that feeling cheated is insecurity, I would think that it is more insecure to let your husband have an on-line girlfriend and disrespecting you. How do you feel about that? |
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July 26, 2005, 5:14 pm PDT
Quote From: snoopy974 Don't do it if you don't like him looking at porn. You can make him change this temporarily, but not forever. A guy that looks at porn will allways have the desire to look at porn. You can't make him change that. If you try, it might work for awhile. But he will only be supressing it and eventually he will go out and find it again. And then you will have to deal with it then. Also, if you make him quit, then he won't be himself and, therefore, will be living a lie. He won't be his ownperson, he will be what you want him to be. How long do you think it will take for him to get tired of living that way? Then, you may have to deal with him having affairs and such. And when might that be? After you have allready had kids? When you knew in the first place that he liked looking at porn and you kept him from it. You kept him from being himself. I personally allow my husband to look at porn. I know he loves me and only me. It doesn't bother me. I know he is going to bed with me at night and he won't be fantasizing that I am one of them. Men love sex and looking at females. If you keep him happy at home, then he won't venture out and find what is missing in his life. If you let him look at the women online and give him great sex, he will allways be by your side. Men love sex, they gotta have it, and they WILL get it, however they have to. Wouldn't you rather him be getting it at home and in front of you than out there somewhere behind your back? P.S. Looking at porn online, on video, or in magazines IS NOT CHEATING. Going out and having sex with other women IS. You women need to get that straight and lighten up, and quit being so insecure. It's a normal natural thing for men to do this. Any man that doesn't like to look a naked women is very strange to me. I would think that something was wrong with him. Do you honestly believe that your husband, who looks at porn, doesn't fantasize about the women in porn when he's having sex with you? Do you honestly believe that a man who isn't allowed to look at porn has no choice but to cheat with real women instead? You have really sold yourself short, like so many women. Honorable men don't cheat AND they don't look at porn. Let me tell you, if your husband is looking at pornography, he is most definitely fantasizing about those other women when he's with you. His brain is wired to do it. He could rewire his brain, certainly, but has no reason to if you don't ask him to. I encourage you to require more for yourself and start living a life of love with the "necessary evil" of pornography. |
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