Quote From: shnck3511 I'm sorry about your husband's affair. I can't imagine your pain right now. I have also gained 50lbs since my children and 11years of marriage. But, guess what???? My husband has gained that much weight as well! We eat salads, fish, and chicken. No soda, chips, or cakes in our house and yet we had wt gain. We walk together and bike together. We've never used the weight as a weapon in our marriage. We discuss it,but never fight about it. Your marriage didn't fall apart because of your weight. Look at the whole picture. Were there other signs, such as little "insults" or "comments" about how you cook, or clean, or drive.....???? ANYTHING??? Maybe he's been abusive all these years and you never realized it until the affair. With any luck this girl that is pregnant now will gain 75lb and only loose 10 after the baby. The best revenge is to live well. I belong to "CURVES FOR WOMEN'. Look them up in your town I'm sure you'll find support and a great workout all in one package. Good luck!
thanks schnk3511
I understand what u are trying to say. But how can I live well. This woman is having the baby she say she wants to keep it. She knows my husband is married with three children, but that doesn't seem to matter to her. She lives very far away from us and speaks very little English and she expects my husband to take care of her is this a trap or what? This affair has destroyed my future with him. Even if he doesn't have relations with this woman anymore there is still a child involved that will keep them linked forever. I will loose the 40lbs already 5 have come off due to lack of appetite, sleep and stress and then I will leave him and find someone who loves and appreciates me for me. I am just sad for my children who will loose their mother, because I also live far away and if I leave my husband he will not let me take my children. I pray to God he gets me through this before I do something drastic.
