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September 29, 2005, 4:42 pm PDT
 Quote From: mercedes It's me again..I would like to share more information that I miss in my previous post. My husband was born in San Francisco, Ca. at the San Francis Memorial Hospital in May 04, 1967, His biological mother was 16 at the time of birth, her last name is Ely and she was from Massachussets, his biolgical father was 18 and last name is Alvarez. My husband was adopted together with another babygirl, they were told that they were twins, but they are no blood related, she was born in June. I have heard that are people called ANGELS who help adoptees to find their relatives....Does anyone could advise me in how to find a reliable source to search for my husband family?...How do I find and ANGEL?...I wish to help my husband to meet his bmother some day. Thank you Dr. Phil.
My name is Barb and I have given up a child. When I tried to find her by the name I gave her at birth, the records said there was no such person. That meant I had hit a dead end. What I didn't know until last year was that there was no dead end. If they can't find your child, that means that he was adopted! I didn't know that until my daughter found me.
Last year my 37 year old daughter's social worker found me by looking on www.Switchboard.com! That is a good place to find people who are apparently lost, as she thought I was lost. It turned out that Beth's adoptive parents had changed her name (or someone had) before her adoption. She wasn't the Lisa Anne I had given up. She was now Beth Sharolyn (Last name deleted). She says she has no idea who named her, but she does have an aunt with the name of Sharolyn.
Anyway, Beth's social worker found me by looking up my mother on Switchboard.com. Mom was still in Texas at the time (Beth was adopted in Virginia). The social worker got in touch with Mom, and she got in touch with me. It took almost 3 months before Beth and I were allowed to talk to each other, but, believe me, it was well worth the wait!
When Beth and I were finally able to talk, both of us were laughing and crying. We had both wanted to finally meet for sooooooo long. Thirty-seven years is a long time to wait to hug your "baby". Beth is about 100 pounds larger than I am (I'm not skinny either), but hugging her and giving her kisses was the best day of my whole life! We stay in touch with each other and she is going to get to see her Grandma in Texas the first of next year.
Hon, don't give up. You WILL find his parents when God decides it is exactly right for both of you. Not until then. All I can say is, just keep looking. They are out there somewhere and probably looking for your husband, too. Sign up at every adoption site you can find! (There are lots of them on the internet....use them all!) Turns out Beth and I had both signed up at several adoption sites, but I didn't know her name. Duh!
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October 5, 2005, 1:06 am PDT
Quote From: mercedes It's me again..I would like to share more information that I miss in my previous post. My husband was born in San Francisco, Ca. at the San Francis Memorial Hospital in May 04, 1967, His biological mother was 16 at the time of birth, her last name is Ely and she was from Massachussets, his biolgical father was 18 and last name is Alvarez. My husband was adopted together with another babygirl, they were told that they were twins, but they are no blood related, she was born in June. I have heard that are people called ANGELS who help adoptees to find their relatives....Does anyone could advise me in how to find a reliable source to search for my husband family?...How do I find and ANGEL?...I wish to help my husband to meet his bmother some day. Thank you Dr. Phil. CALIFORNIA
Obtaining Non-Identifying Information: Adopted adults age 18 or older and adoptive parents of adoptees younger than 18 may request non-identifying information from the adoption agency or from the government department that joined in the adoption petition. If the request is denied, the party seeking information may petition the court in which the adoption was finalized. Parents who have surrendered can receive information on the status of the adoption and the adoptive parents at time of placement.
National Adoption Information Clearinghouse
One must petition the court in which the adoption was finalized to obtain a copy of the original birth certificate.
http://www.geocities.com/californiaadoptees/index.htm http://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/9606/states/CAopen.html http://www.geocities.com/capitolhill/9606/states/california.html
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June 2, 2007, 11:13 pm PDT
Quote From: mercedes It's me again..I would like to share more information that I miss in my previous post. My husband was born in San Francisco, Ca. at the San Francis Memorial Hospital in May 04, 1967, His biological mother was 16 at the time of birth, her last name is Ely and she was from Massachussets, his biolgical father was 18 and last name is Alvarez. My husband was adopted together with another babygirl, they were told that they were twins, but they are no blood related, she was born in June. I have heard that are people called ANGELS who help adoptees to find their relatives....Does anyone could advise me in how to find a reliable source to search for my husband family?...How do I find and ANGEL?...I wish to help my husband to meet his bmother some day. Thank you Dr. Phil.
About a week ago we received a letter of my husband's bfather. He'd replied to a letter I sent him during the first days of May, reading his words is something difficult to describe, a very exiting moment in our lives. I found him with the help of someone I believe is truly a search ANGEL and thanks to this post in the Dr.Phil site.
He is looking now for my husband's bmother and we are expecting to get news very soon. Thanks to every person that took the time to give us information and everyone that replied our post. Mercedes.
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