Quote From: mrscc2003I was re-married two years ago and I do enjoy being married to my husband. He truely is a great guy. He has a daughter who I love like she was my own. However, I am feeling very slighted over the time he spends with her. I do not mind that he spends time with her, its what he does with her. He does things with her that I would enjoy. My family recently purchased a beach home and he took her there go drive around, and boat around. I have not had the opportunity to do that because the home was gutted, so any time down at the beach has been for work purposes so far. He takes her to sculpture parks, museums, helicopter rides and we barely get out. One of the things I fell in love with about him was the wonderful father that he is, I just didnt know that I would not be included in any of the fun stuff. I tell him how I feel but the fact is that its over and he will not stop doing these things with his daughter, and he wants to spend time alone with her so I am not invited. It makes me sad and I feel like I never get a "first" with him. any advice?
We have a blended family. I can tell you from experience that my hubby (the Step) also sometimes feels very left out.
Believe it or not, it's a common problem in blended families.
Oh, and also let me say that I think that it is VERY heroic and self-sacrificing of you to allow your partner his time with his daughter. You didn't mention how old she was but their time together will be limited because she will grow up and move away.
Still, I do understand how you feel.
I suggest that you do set up some time when it's just the two of you to NOT DO just work. Set up play time. And when agrees let him know how much you appreciate it.
I also suggest that, maybe, you set up sometime time with his daughter to do "girl stuff". Kind of turn the tables on him -- see how he likes it. Plus it continues to build a loving bond with his daughter and eventually she may insist on you being included too.
Another idea to schedule time with your own girlfriends while he has daughter time.
I hate to think how much he and his daughter are missing out when you aren't there too -- does he really want to put up a wall like that. It's like shooting your relationship in the foot!
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