Quote From: jjirh1I need help desperately. I have a 17 year old that had his first girlfriend that lasted 1 year. During that time she cheated on him with other guys but he always took her back. During the summer she went away on a 3 week trip and cheated on him. When she came home they broke up, actually she broke up with him.
He wont accept it. He is very distraught over this and we cant seem to get him over this hump. He has become separated, mean, just got into a fight on Friday and got the you know what kicked out of him, from the kid she cheated with. We are very much afraid something else is going to happen that is bad. His friends are trying to help, their mothers are trying to help, his priest at school is trying to help. His self esteem is at the bottom of the barrel right now. And he thinks of himself as a very bad person. It is tearing me apart, emotionally and physically. I dont know if he is in a state of depression or not. I dont know where to turn right now before something bad happens. All I do is cry over the situation to see him in so much pain and not think good of himself. I just keep thinking the worse is yet to come.
Can someone please help me? I am desperate and so is my son.
Your son still thinks there is a chance with this girl. Otherwise he would move on. He is DEFINITELY depressed!! He needs to get this girl out of his head once and for all. You can help by changing his surroundings any way you can. Take him, or send him on a vacation. Let him visit relatives. Take him out for a treat when he's especially down, even if it's just a drive for a soda. Get him out with kids his own age. Remind him of his strengths. Is he an artist? musician? play golf? Whatever! Remind him what a great guy he is in so many ways! Encourage him to go out with other friends to movies, concerts,parties. Whereever! It may even help to point out what a crappie person she is. Show him there are lots of fish in the sea. Kind and faithful ones too! Once he forgets her and gets on with his life he will be fine again. Guaranteed!
Good luck!
