Replies to '12/08 Out-of-Control Husbands'

People can change & do when they choose to. But it has to be the offender's choice or it will never take. Even when it is their choice, it's a hard path. I am still having a hard time trusting my husband after all of his lies even though he's becoming everything I've ever needed.

 

I certainly believe there comes a point when it can be too much & there just isn't any energy left for yet another "second chance". I thought I was there last summer. Thankfully, I wasn't. We are doing good right now. He's being patient with me & the fact that I don't trust him yet. He's also coming to grips with why I don't trust him yet.

  WHEN   A   PERSON   HAS   A   DRUG   OR   ALCHOL   ADDICTION  THAT   IS   THEIR   PRIMARY   RELATIONSHIP.  THEY   ALSO   TRY   TO   CONTROL   THOSE   AROUN D   THEM  AS   THEY   CAN   NOT   CONTROL   THEIR  ADDICTION.  YES,   IT  I S   SAD   FOR   ALL  INVOLVED,  HOWEVER   THE   REAL   VICTIM   IS  THE   PARTNER   AND   CHILDREN   OF   THE   [ADDICTED].   GOD   HELP   THEM  ALL.   AL-ANON   IS   A   GREAT   PLACE   TO  START.

People can and do change.........and we should applaud those who take the HUGE step to do so, and those who are strong enough to stand by them, love them, believe in them. Without Gretchen, who knows where Danny might be now? She is his angel!!   :)