Replies to '06/19 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin'

Here's what you should do, pray to God about it and everything will fall into place.

hi, not sure what kind of a husband you were, but it seems you really cared about this person and I'm glad that there are still caring men out there.

 

Please try and smile and find joy in doing outdoor things.  Join some activities where you can meet new ppl and in time you will fill that void.  I'm sure there is a lot you can offer to someone, most of all, important keep your morals high, your fidelity strong, your loyalty in tact and smile big.  Everyone loves smiles.

 

again stay strong and keep active, don't isolate yourself.  Let everyone of your associates know that you need some healthy association and help with living life again.  I suppose you never had kids, kids seem to be the perfect companions I find.  Otherwise pottery classes, a coffee witha  good pal and reading the 'horrible' local news, hit the local gym and for me...walking like a mad woman.. can't get enough.... nothing like creating some dimention to your physique. Pls give those suggestions a shot, it will take a few weeks to grow accustomed to change but life will start feeling refreshing again. Trust me.

 

be hopeful ok, there's still plenty of life in you and all you gotta to do grab hold of it...

smile nice and big , k :D

I'll gladly be a pen pal if you'd like to talk.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can not begin to understand the pain you must be going through.  I do know that starting over will get better with each passing day. You will never have to forget your wonderful wife and the love you shared. The pain however of your loss will begin to lessen as time goes by.  I hope you do not jump right back into a new relationship just because you want the pain to go away. I think you should take some time to yourself and figure out who you are ALONE and what you want for the rest of your life. I feel to many of us have a fear of being alone and jump from relationship to relationships without really ever knowing ourselves. You are a different person from when you first meet your wife and you might want different things now. Your wife will never be far from your heart and I am sure she would not want this for you. Talk to her when you need and you will feel her close to you. If you do find (IN TIME) a new love I hope that person respects your love and loss of your wife and never tells you not to talk about her or remember her. If that person does get rid of them quick! My Dad has a new wife and she brings up memories of my MOM for him and talks freely of their relationship w/ my dad. That is a strong and confident person and that is the kind of person I hope you meet. Dont look, when you start to focus on yourself and become happy and your grieving lessens a new love will walk into your life. The good kind and the right kind. Please hold on tomorrow will come and you will be ok.

I would like to tell you something you have heard probably many times: i am sorry to hear about your wife's passing and i wish you all the best i hope God will show you why this had to happen and i hope you learn all the lessons he is trying to teach you and i hope that you will become a stronger person in all this.