Quote From: nannahdebHey all: What is my payoff for being overweight? That is something I am going to have to put a great deal of thought into. Anyone got any answers to the question? I know that I love food. I know that it tastes good. I know that it is all about instant gratification. I don't think long term. Then comes the question what is my pay off of instant gratification? I feel that it is the only thing in my life that I have any kind of control over. I am the only one who can make me eat. I am the only one who can put that food into my mouth and swallow it. Then comes the question what is my pay off for having contol over my life. Isn't life merely a roll of the dice. We truly have no control over our own lives and what will be will be. The guy upstairs already has everything planned out for us and whether we are big or small, short of tall etc.....hasn't that already been determined? I love Dr. Phil's quotes....."How's that workin' for ya" and "what's the payoff" . Right now it isn't working at all and my pay off is a whole lot of grief. I need to find a much better pay off that works for me.
Thanks for listening. DEB
I am no longer overweight. I am considered to be clinically thin, even though I am about 7 pounds from goal weight. I have lost 130 pounds and have seen numerous changes in my physical, mental and emotional bodies.
Personally, the major payoff for me being overweight in the first place and then for staying that way for so long was my need to have a wall between me and other people and to have an excuse to be alone and lonely. I look back now and see that I was mostly motivated by fear. Fear of success, fear of relationships, fear of failure, fear of happiness, fear of sadness ...
I tackled my bad eating and exercising habits a little bit at a time and I tackled the fear a little bit at a time. I am desperately afraid sometimes, still, but now I don't hide behind food.
Go slow, start slow, be easy on yourself.
You can do it!
