Quote From: jewelmooreyou are not in need of meds. That , to me, would be the last resort. You have twin babies, a full time job, your mother died, your daughter left with her husband, your son is gone. It sounds to me more like you need some support and understanding. I would find a support group for parents of multiple births and rally with other mothers in your same situation.
I have seven children and am very familiar with the feelings of guilt when you leave for any length of time but the more you give yourself that few minutes to yourself every day the easier it gets. It doesn't hurt them and it does you a world of good. They won't even remember you were gone.
Cheer up, you are not alone, its just a tough time but remember, it doesn't last forever. Soon it will be a distant memory.
Thank you both for your replies.
My husband helps as much as he can. He is a wonderful father, however he does get a little flustered when they both start in w/ crying. He does his very best. When we are home together, he will pitch in and do what ever needs doing, he just not do it well alone. He tries, but it's extremely stressfull for him..he does try. I just know that when he gets totally stressed, it makes the babies "concerned".
Anyway, I did finially go to the Dr and talked in length about depression and medication. I still have not decided to take medicine, I will if I need it, but honestly I agree with you. It was a tremendous blow to my life haveing so much change so close together. I do feel better. I have since had a close family friend volunteer her and her family to watch our babies on a Saturday so my husband and I can have some time together. I am greatful to her. I don't ask anyone to babysit, it's to much, but certain close family members or close family friends I will take them up on offers...when they offer.
God Bless all of you and I pray for a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year.
Sincerely,
Sherry
