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I am a divorced for a 2nd time single mom,, and here is my story,,

I met my 2nd husband 3 years after my 1st divorce,, this man was everything my 1st husband wasn't,, a good provider, helped around the house and the love of my life. Unfortunately he was a Dr Jeckle, Mr Hyde personality and it didn't show until after we were married. I had heard stories of this mans violent behaviour but hadn't experienced it until one day when "my kids" didnt fold our laundry. He threw a laundry basket at my oldest child, he called her names I cant even repeat, and then threatened to kill me if I divorced him. Well, I went and got a restraining order, filed divorce papers, and this past July he contacted me saying he was so sorry and how he messed up and loves me,, blah blah blah. Well, guess what I gave him a second chance with just me and it wasn't too long he was back to verbally abusing me, everything was my fault and my kdis fault and he wasn't too blame for anything that had happened. Well, he is now totally out of the picture and I've moved on with my life with my 3 kids and learned a lesson, when someone tells you about a persons past you need to consider this when making a big decision such as marriage. I finally figured out that this man wasnt about being in love w/me he wanted to "control" me and unfortunately he says he forgave me for giving up on our marriage but in the end his "actions" spoke louder and opposite of his words. I feel sorry for him and I hope that some other poor,naive person sees him for who he is before they get involved w/him. I can honestly say it wasn't me because all his previous relationships ended the same exact way. A year later I am a stronger person, smarter person, and my kids are my world and no one deserves to be verbally abused. So many people say well he didnt physically abuse you, he came close but didn't hit you,,, well let me tell you, I think words hurt more than a fist and broken promises remind you that nothing will change,, I was promised the moon again, no actions, meaning no counseling I was the one w/the problem me and my kids, not him he wasn't to blame.  

I feel like im babbling so I"ll end it here but my lesson is "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS