Replies to 'Coping with Stress'

 I know you must be feeling all alone too. Take a deep breath though, and step back a moment. Your husband is terribly sick and needs you for emotional support. You can not make him better, that's up to him, the doctors, and God. You don't know if your daughter has cervical cancer yet, so hold off on that stress for now. She would like emotional support also, which I'm sure you will give if it's needed. Your other pregnant daughter is having problems but is too far away for you to take a hands on approach, and she holds some responsibility for her predicament. She needs emotional support, and I'm sure you will supply it.
You can not solve these problems for others, the best you can do is offer emotional support. What do YOU need to be able to "be there" for your loved ones? Take some time out of every day to give yourself some peace to be able to pick up your burdens and face the suffering of the ones you love. For us women, it seems selfish to take time for ourselves, but it is not. If you are always stressed, needlessly over things you have no control over, you will not accomplish the things you DO have control over.
If you lose your house, where will you go? You must separate your survival issues from stress about others that you have no control over. It's not selfish to take care of your future so that your daughters won't have to take care of you. And it's not selfish to prioritize the time you spend worrying and being with your husband. Your daughters should understand that he was there before they were, that he was the reason they were created, and that he is your life partner.
Take the time to care for you.

First , You are not alone. There are a lot of women out there with similar stories. You sound a lot like

me , trying to control the Universe. Well, we can't. Start with your world, that is your husband and yourself.

Your kids go in another box ( so to speak ) .You can't fix their world, they have to do that. Support them, but let them know that they are not kids anymore, and some effort is going to have to happen on their end.

If your kids are making daily phone calls or nearly so for support, they are standing on your shoulders and that gets heavy. .. You have to mentally box up your problems so you can manage them. Worry about tomorrow's troubles when tomorrow comes. This might sound like a cliche, but it is true, and it helps.

If you don't have money for a funeral, then think about cremation if and when the time comes.

Direct your kids to a minister or other agency for help. If your husband is sick , he needs you right now and being stressed out and sick from that does not help him.. I suggest you get a yoga tape or dvd and use that to focus your energy on relaxation.  .. I have a long list of similar stresses and everyday is different in how well I handle it. Mostly I just try to remember that the Universe is not mine to control.

My granddaughter was in a car accident  in which her father died a couple of months ago.. My 87 year old mother fell and broke her hip and arm last week . One of my sisters acts like  a classic narcissist  from abnormal Psyche books and is  making crazy talk . My husband  has a throat problem and is going for a biopsy on Friday.. One of my daughters is trying to support herself and 3 kids alone and is having money problems  and medical problems with the kids and is calling for support..  Trust me, deal with today and let tomorrow take care of itself.  The best help you can give your kids is to pray for them and tell them to enlarge their support group so you can have a break and take care of your husband and yourself.  Stress will kill you and who would they lean on then? ... Powersurging