Replies to '05/30 Pretty/Ugly'

Thank you!  Maybe it's childish of me to feel like this, but I can't help but resent, as a "plain person", being represented by a guy who just got engaged to an ex-Playboy model.  I'm sure she's a lovely individual on the inside, too, but if she looked like me, he probably wouldn't have bothered to meet her in the first place.  I guess I should be more charitable--he would have met her but decided she was a good Platonic Friend.  I know Jay has done a lot of good things and I'm sure he's a very intelligent, generous, and well-meaning guy, but I don't think he was the right choice for this. 

I don't even think I'm that bad-looking.  I had a horrible ugly-duckling adolescence--too tall, big hips/thighs, acne, limp hair, awful clothes, thick glasses, you name it, I had it--so by comparison, I think I look GREAT.  Everyone thinks I'm smart, funny, trustworthy, sensible, blah blah blah, but nobody thinks I'm attractive.  I've been lucky in that I haven't been in employment situations where appearances are emphasized (beyond being clean and neat, of course), but I'm always passed over in other respects.  Obviously, I don't want to be treated like an object and I'm glad that men think well of me as a person, but I get tired of being that Platonic Friend.  (And don't tell me that I don't need a man--I DON'T need a man.  I like myself just fine as I am; I just wish somebody else liked me just fine as I am.) 

Personally, I thought this was patronizing.  He doesn't look plain, he looks creepy.  He looks like a guy in a weird disguise and I wouldn't have talked to him either (of course, I hate being accosted by strangers in malls for any reason, so he could have looked like George Clooney and I still would have walked away).  He looked sloppy and dirty, which isn't at all the same thing--I could spend a fortune on clothes and hours on my hair and I would still be plain.  Well-groomed but plain.  They should have done this two well-dressed people, one with a "fashionable" and one with an "unfashionable" body type, instead of with a fake slob. 

Jay, baby, you are hot.  But , I have to agree on this one.  Try to convince us that you didn't see looks first on her!  Really, If she was just 30 pounds heavier, would you have struck up a conversation with her? 

That being said, I was a little angry with the woman who made the looks crack at Dr. Phil.  He is a very handsome man, lady.  He is funny and very smart.  Sure he is lucky to find Robin...but she is lucky to find him too.  They both are total winners.  You watch the show and you can just imagine that they are really that nice off-camera too.  You can't say that for a lot of celebrities.