laluna, how old are you and do you have any children?
i have been married to my husband for almost 13 yrs now. we had mad passionate sex prior to marriage that continued on until early to mid 30's. then a huge decline in my sex drive happened. i had no idea why. the only thing i could think of was post traumatic stress syndrome. i had been attacked in a department store bathroom. thank god i was unharmed but still have lasting fears of public restrooms. (a whole different story and msg board). haha
any way my drive went down hill fast. i tried everything including toys, testosterone cream, movies. self talk and seeing a counselor. i did make myself say "yes" to sex even when i was not feeling like it and enjoyed it once it started. kind of like exercising... hard to get started but always feel better once finished... any way. over time and a very considerate, loving , non-judgemental husband we have returned to "our normal" which we are both very fullfilled by.
long story short.. (sorry) just wanted to get to now that i look back on it and talk to younger ( i am now 41) female friends in their 30's seems to me that i could be hormone related. i was not on birth control pills. tubal ligation mid 80's.
hang in there and my advice say yes even when you don't feel like it. it's not selling out. you have to (like dr. phil says) behave your way to success...
good luck hope to hear from you soon
