Quote From: flthomcatDr. Phil STATES that unless you have tried EVERYTHING, you are not ready to leave the marriage. Therefore, unless YOU have got counseling for yourself (if he refuses to go), than you have NOT tried everything.
I have personally witnessed a man CHANGE after his wife moved out and threatened to leave him. My sister left her husband for 2 years. She has now returned to him (another 2 years) and he is WONDERFUL. He really did make the effort to change and now they are happy together and HONORING THEIR VOWS.
Your children deserve for their mother to try EVERYTHING before bailing out on the marriage vows. Do it for them; go for help for yourself. If the problems continue after you've TRIED EVERY LAST RESORT, than that's a different ballgame. Good luck to you and God bless.
You said in your statement "I have personaly witnesses a man CHANGE" and HE is wonderful"
"HE really did make the effort to change".
"My sister left her husband for two years."
Why in this situation is it up to the Woman being abused to attempt to change?
Why is it she can not leave an abusive situation, without being supported and encouraged?
I do believe people can change, however, I also know that they can only change themselves, no one can do this for them. Even if this woman did go to counselling "if he refuses to go" it is not going to change his behavior.
I do encourage her to go to counselling, but not for the reasons presented, but rather for herself.
I don't understand your how you came to the conclusion that Dr.Phil would apply what you said to this woman.
Abuse in any shape and form is wrong, and from what I can tell from the woman's statements that she made, that she is more than ready to move on and try to make a positive, healthy, happy life for herself and her children, without her abuser.
