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Quote From: getnbtrnow

As a former battered wife and mother of two children that were severely abused by their father, I can honestly say that this woman has only ONE choice. GET OUT NOW!  She will look back on the last 17 years and wonder WHY in the world she stayed so long.  She has NO self-respect at this point in her life, but WILL regain it.  If he hurt her while she was pregnant, then that means he hurt her child too and won't stop at that.  She has a responsibility to her children and MUST get them to a safe and loving environment.  There is a line that her husband should have NEVER crossed. Each time he crosses it, IT GETS EASIER.  On top of that, he won't take ownership in it.  THIS IS A DANGEROUS COMBINATION. I have faith that Dr. Phil will explain this to them. Even if the husband promises to "be good" the wife will NEVER feel safe. EVER. I don't care what anyone says. There will ALWAYS be that doubt that he planted.  My ex husband would "be good" for awhile, but he always reverted back to his old ways and he always blamed me and the kids for it.  He was a master manipulator and has always played the victim, even though he is the biggest bully you will ever meet.  This woman needs to obtain counseling too. For herself and her child(ren).  The husband needs to as well. However, considering his abusive nature, they don't need to live in the same house while they are doing it. It would be a recipe for disaster.  The man needs to attend anger management courses too and have supervised visits with the children.  My ex husband beat my children during visitation and made them promise not to tell.  He kicked and stomped my 9 year old (now 12) son, until he wet his pants. While my 6 year old daughter looked on and hid behind his truck tire. He did this in a restaurant parking lot, then took him in (limping, crying, wet pants and all) and made him shake hands with everyone there.  Dr. Phil thinks Child Protective Services would do something about this. Well, that's the ONLY time that I have known DR. PHIL IS WRONG.  My ex husband got away with this. My son's counselor called CPS himself and they did NOTHING! NOTHING!!!!!!!  I had to hire an attorney and other professionals to stop this from happening. After paying thousands, I am knee deep in debt to these people, because CPS wouldn't protect my children. Unbelievable. So this lady needs to take matter into her own hands and protect herself and her child(ren).  I hope she reads this. If she does...I want her to know that she's NOT alone.  STAY STRONG, because he will make EVERY excuse in the book. She's known him for 17 years. She already knows what to do, she just wants to justify her leaving, by having a professional tell her to do so.