Quote From: debsherlMy older brother was born with congenital deformities of one half of his face. The malformations were minor to moderate (similar to a stroke), but at age 16 had corrective surgery to make his face more symmetrical. All things went bad post op and he has been in "hiding" ever since - now 30 + years! He is brilliantly talented as a musician and at one time had an enormous heart for other people. But the world NEVER accepted him - based on appearance alone! He has had the world shun him at every step. "A face only a Mother could love" , just like the lyrics of the song from the Phantom, once our Mother died, he went "underground" and has yet to surface. He has a Bachelor's Degree and medical training, yet works the nite shift as a poorly paid janitor at a donut shop. No self esteem from day one. If only the world could "really" see his soul and the millions of scars that we have ALL cast upon him and so so many others.
You stated: "All things went bad post op and he has been in "hiding" ever since - now 30 + years!"
If he is in hiding no one will be able to get the chance to get to know him.
Yes,the world is sometimes cruel if we let it be.There are always going to be people who are going to try to make themselves feel good by insulting others.
I think the world is seeing his scars because that is all he'll let anyone see.
Is he getting help?
It is obvious you love him so much.Help him to get past worrying about his looks.
