Replies to 'How Porn Has Hurt Our Relationship'

Quote From: darcylove

You said " actually I have been saying that from the very beginning if someone turns away from the relationship, via porn, emotional support from someone else, then there is something that is missing in that relationship.  Whatever that something is as to be worked on and turning away is not going to make the situation better."   For some the porn was there long before they got married and not sure if in those cases it is about something missing in the relationship or if it is something that person that is turning to porn is struggling with their own personal issues. For myself...my husband was long addicted to porn before he met me. And there was nothing I could provide him with in the relationship to change this. What I however needed to do was stop enabling his addictions and feeing it. I needed to show him that I was not dependent of his every move and show him that if need be I could survive on my own.   FOr many it isn't about what they are not getting in a marriage but about being misguided about marriage and sex to begin with. For many they have forgotten that they need to turn to their partner for these things and think that is okay to turn somewhere else as long as they are not physically coming into contact with someone else.   Okay back to working on something I was doing here. Happy to see you here bae! (i know you will be see us soon)