Quote From: jljs53Hi all. I am so glad the forum has been changed. I still consider myself a newbie to some extent and have lots of things I still want to know about. It has been very difficult saying what I wanted to say because there was a fear on my part of getting blasted or scoffed at for my beliefs and more so my feelings. I was very careful as to how I worded anything. Reading posts from pro-porn people always veered away from the point and made me feel like I should spend time trying to explain but I hardly ever did. I think the main thing that was missed on the other board was the ''feelings'' that we had from being deceived. A recent case in point is the comments made about a women waiting in bed for her husband. I understood exactly what it meant but others wanted to argue sexual positions, who initiated it , being lazy waiting in bed, etc. etc. To me the point was laying in bed hurt because he would rather be on the computer. Before porn I never found myself alone at bedtime. Now everyone that has been on this side of the fence knows what I mean. I am really glad that this board is here. jljs
is coming with great critism because some believe that all that will happen here is a bunch of people crying with little help going on.
As I have always said......if you have done all that you can to figure out what went wrong and have had no success (and most who end up here have) then maybe it is time you stop poinint at oneself and start looking for new solutions.
It is my belief that many women who end up here and have had little success in ridding their marriage of porn (what seems so simple to you and I but has not been) most are dealing with far more then just a simple porn usage. It is my belief that the reason they encounter the same arguements over and over is because they are dealing with porn becoming much more then just a pasttime. Yes...an addiction.
So now we have this place to figure it all out. And I am glad we have it. THose who want to debate can suffer through the other place. The rest of us....will enjoy having each other to support (and yes sometimes cry together).
