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I wanted to address something your brought up here, but have to keep it brief as I need to be out the door in about 6 minutes lol.  Anyway - you write about your husband and how the type of women he is looking at don't match your body type.  First - believe him when he tells you that isn't the kind of woman he wants.  One thing you should know is that for many men, what they look at and fantasize about especially do not represent what they want in their actual, real world sex life.  I can tell you that my husband looked at some stuff that he had ZERO interest in actually doing.  It is absolutely possible for someone to fantasize about a person or an act that they don't ever intend to carry out.  I don't know if that is true of your husband, but it is at least possible.  As for the type of women he is choosing looking like body builders - perhaps your husband has some fantasies about having a woman dominate him.  I have no idea of course, if that is true, but it is at least possible.  Even if it is true, chances are he wouldn't admit it, because he would feel embarrassed.  Men are generally not comfortable sharing that they even think about being submissive.  Again - this may not match your husband and the main point I want you to get is that just because he looks at women like that does NOT necessarily mean he wants you to.

One other quick thing and then I gotta roll.  As far as losing weight - if you feel uncomfortable at the size you are and want to become more healthy through diet and exercise, then by all means do it!  Then you will be making a change from strength.  However - don't do it just to "make him want me".  Then you will be operating out of fear.  I have more thoughts on that, but really have to go now. 

Take care and I hope you and everyone here is having a nice Tuesday!  :)  Roxy

P.S.  Plz excuse any typos - no time to proofread!

I wanted to address something your brought up here, but have to keep it brief as I need to be out the door in about 6 minutes lol.  Anyway - you write about your husband and how the type of women he is looking at don't match your body type.  First - believe him when he tells you that isn't the kind of woman he wants.  One thing you should know is that for many men, what they look at and fantasize about especially do not represent what they want in their actual, real world sex life.  I can tell you that my husband looked at some stuff that he had ZERO interest in actually doing.  It is absolutely possible for someone to fantasize about a person or an act that they don't ever intend to carry out.  I don't know if that is true of your husband, but it is at least possible.  As for the type of women he is choosing looking like body builders - perhaps your husband has some fantasies about having a woman dominate him.  I have no idea of course, if that is true, but it is at least possible.  Even if it is true, chances are he wouldn't admit it, because he would feel embarrassed.  Men are generally not comfortable sharing that they even think about being submissive.  Again - this may not match your husband and the main point I want you to get is that just because he looks at women like that does NOT necessarily mean he wants you to.

One other quick thing and then I gotta roll.  As far as losing weight - if you feel uncomfortable at the size you are and want to become more healthy through diet and exercise, then by all means do it!  Then you will be making a change from strength.  However - don't do it just to "make him want me".  Then you will be operating out of fear.  I have more thoughts on that, but really have to go now. 

Take care and I hope you and everyone here is having a nice Tuesday!  :)  Roxy

P.S.  Plz excuse any typos - no time to proofread!