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December 12, 2006, 2:45 pm PST
 Quote From: itsdakota my soon-2-be husband looks at porn now, but doesnt do all the things your husband does !! if todd EVER did anything like what your husband does, i'd give him ONE chance to straighten up. if he didnt, then i'd be sooo OUT the door. your husband is very lucky to have a wife like you who is cool and is giving him every possible chance to be the guy God wants him to be !
pray for Jesus to guide your husband in the right direction. i know you probaby think prayer won't help, but it WILL . trust me, i know ! then after you do that, you'll have to just wait and see what your husband does from there. if you can, ask him if you can be in charge of the finances and for YOU to hold on to the credit card for awhile til he can deal with his porn issues. if he says no, then you just gotta sit tight and see what happens. but umm, if this goes on much longer and he causes you wayy too much pain, you might have to seperate from him for a while- not only to spare you the anguish of all this, but so he can FEEL what it feels like NOT having you in his life. if he loves you at all and wants you as his wife for life, then he WILL straighten up !! im sure he's not doing this to intentionally hurt you. maybe its something he's had his hole life and hasnt had to deal with it til now.
God bless you, your lil baby AND your husband . and come here anytime you wanna talk or just vent, k ? there are sum awesome people in here who had / have experence with all this and can really help you deal with the sucky part of this porn thing ! take care
ps: NO baby should go without a 1st b-day party!! if you really need help with that, all of us in this room can get together and pitch in sum $$$ so your lil baby can have the b-day she deserves!! i know i will and if i'm the only one who does pitch in, i'll do my best to send you whatever i can with the sucky job that i have lol.....God bless you !
My husband watched porn before we got married, but I didn't realize how much he was into it till after we got married. What hurt me the most was the fact that he thought he had to hide it from me even though he knew I didn't mind him watching it before, now it's -very- hard for me to trust him even though I want to. I do pray for this to get better everyday and it only seems to get harder to deal with. I've tried taking over the bank account and he would say he wanted me to help him but then wouldn't let me. I've read that porn addictions get worse over time and after porn it goes to asking women for naked pics in e-mails and then caming with cam girls and then some go as far as dating sites looking for other women in thier area.... my husbands addiction has gotten as bad as asking girls in the area for naked pictures, I'm glad I found out what was going on before things got worse. He knows if it ever happens again I'm not going to stay to get hurt again. I can't let him hurt the family the way he has again. Thank you so much for the comfort and support, I appreciate it! *hugs* ps: I couldn't let you do that, we'll figure a way to make her birthday work. =) I'm thinking about making it after New Years instead since it's so close to Christmas anyway. I'll figure a way to manage it. Thank you so much anyway. <3 |
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