Hi kellybsierra. I am very thankful for your response. Maybe I should take my own advice. I want the board to know that I really like coming on here. The only time I respond is when I have something to offer. Thank you for turning it around on me. WE only use porn for OUR pleasure. I do not surf, do not look for others and do not do anything without my wife as far as that goes. In fact, it is only in the picture when she initiates it. I will be cautious with it, under your advisement.
OK, now let me ask the board something. I am ready to get the advice of many others that I have grown fond of hearing from. That would be kellybsierra, cepelia, lucky24, purplepenny, and jettav in particular. There are others on here that I love to hear from as well, but I have really enjoyed all of you. So get ready to hand my butt to me or be nice, which ever strikes you.
Story: About June time, my wife's job reduced to the amount that she made barely any money. We had some savinings and we lasted for about 4 months till she finally just got an afternoon cleaning job to help get us by. Her work has picked up, but now she does not want to quit the night job either. So I see her for about 1/2 hour when I get home from work and for about 1 1/2 hour prior to her or I going to bed.
OK, about the same time, she decided to go on the pill to help her with her periods. It has helped tremendously. Her sex drive has completely gone away.
I am not really all that happy anymore with this arrangement. I am being supportive. For example, I mentioned that she does not have a sex drive and she asked me if she should go off he pill. Of course, I said no because I am very supportive of anything that helps her feel better. I know that she is tired when she is done working.
So, do I ask her to do something else? Do I maybe insist that I would like her to quit the other job? We do not need the money anymore. Do I just let things go like they are and be the good husband, knowing that she will probably get tired of it as well. I am just afraid that my unhappiness with work against our marriage. I want to make sure that when we are together, that I do not turn into a problem or burden. Last thing I want to do is push her away. But frankly, I am getting tired of going without affection, taking care of the kids every night myself, etc... I feel like a single dad sometimes. I also want to state, I love her with all my heart. I know she is my soul mate. We are just in slump I think, but I do not think she thinks we are. I would love to follow my own advice, but I can not even do that since I can not get her out, cannot take a motorcycle ride (too cold), cannot get time alone with her (she works all the time), and she does not seem interested in me right now anyway.
Let me have it. Scott
