Shame prevents healing...the only way to get rid of shame is to talk about what you are ashamed of...you have to say it outloud to another person you trust...be it a pastor, priest, counsellor, therapist, good (trusted) friend, doctor, psychiatrist...anyone who you trust fully with what you need to say...if you are not ready to say it to another person...start by writing it down and even tear it up after you do if you want but get it outside of yourself. The shame will be diluted and you will begin to heal. Blessings...
