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September 14, 2005, 8:41 am PDT
You are an adult now.
Quote From: chrstine18hello....i have a tough question.....im 23 years old and i still live at home with my parents b/c im going to school to get my teaching certificate. ive been in a relationship with a guy for about 4 months. Ive known him most of my life and we are best friends. My parents know him and also trust him. About a month ago he asked me to go to a wedding with him in another state which would mean that we would have to stay over night for one night. We were planing to go with another couple. When i told my parents about this they totally disagreed and said that it was inappropriate for me to spend the night with him. I really dont know what to do about this situation b/c i feel that i am old enough to make my own choices but i also feel that b/c im living at home they still have a lot of control over me. my parents are strict but i want to be able to have an adult relationship with my boyfriend so what do you think i should do about this situation? Being an adult means that you can make decisions for yourself, regardless of what others might want you to do. But to make responsible decisions you do have to weigh the consequences of your decisions. As adults, your parents may decide that it's time you moved out if you don't humor them. Right or wrong, that's their choice, its their house and you are living there. But as an adult you may need to start asserting your independence, and showing them that you can be responsible. Why do they assume you will spend the night with this man? Did you tell them that was the plan? Do you have money to stay in a hotel by yourself? Are there any of your friends going that will be getting a room that you can split costs on?
And last, what do you want to do? Nobody can really tell you not to if you intend to stay with your boyfriend, but is it what you want to do? Is it a wise choice for you?
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