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I find it annoying when others say "God wants you to do this".  You do not know that for sure, you really do not.  Living together before marriage has got to be one of the smartest ways to go about it.  Of course not for EVERYONE, some people will disagree of course.  It is important to do what is right for YOU and your partner.  But it seems these days we have evolved, and evolving is fantastic.  Change is a good thing, it helps us grow and mature.  People who cannot see that have very closed minds.  Not living together before marriage is a thing of the past.  We have evolved to recognize that moving in together and then getting married if both people see fit, is definitely the way to go. 

What if you get married and once you are living together you cannot stand eachother?  I'm not talking about minor problems that can be solved, or even major problems that can be solved.  You could realize you've made an awful mistake.  Why not realize that before you walk down the isle?  Be smart!  Check out your options before marriage. 

I'm not saying everyone should live together before marriage.  I just don't think it's right to say that that is wrong "according to God".  I don't care if you do not live together before, so you should not care if I do.

Don't even get me started on the "no sex before marriage" nonsense.  Wow.  I can't even imagine how many people get married only to realize there is nothing there physically....

Anyway, do what is right for you, but saving big events until after marriage, in my opinion, is asking for trouble.

I find it annoying when others say "God wants you to do this".  You do not know that for sure, you really do not.  Living together before marriage has got to be one of the smartest ways to go about it.  Of course not for EVERYONE, some people will disagree of course.  It is important to do what is right for YOU and your partner.  But it seems these days we have evolved, and evolving is fantastic.  Change is a good thing, it helps us grow and mature.  People who cannot see that have very closed minds.  Not living together before marriage is a thing of the past.  We have evolved to recognize that moving in together and then getting married if both people see fit, is definitely the way to go. 

What if you get married and once you are living together you cannot stand eachother?  I'm not talking about minor problems that can be solved, or even major problems that can be solved.  You could realize you've made an awful mistake.  Why not realize that before you walk down the isle?  Be smart!  Check out your options before marriage. 

I'm not saying everyone should live together before marriage.  I just don't think it's right to say that that is wrong "according to God".  I don't care if you do not live together before, so you should not care if I do.

Don't even get me started on the "no sex before marriage" nonsense.  Wow.  I can't even imagine how many people get married only to realize there is nothing there physically....

Anyway, do what is right for you, but saving big events until after marriage, in my opinion, is asking for trouble.

I find it annoying when others say "God wants you to do this".  You do not know that for sure, you really do not.  Living together before marriage has got to be one of the smartest ways to go about it.  Of course not for EVERYONE, some people will disagree of course.  It is important to do what is right for YOU and your partner.  But it seems these days we have evolved, and evolving is fantastic.  Change is a good thing, it helps us grow and mature.  People who cannot see that have very closed minds.  Not living together before marriage is a thing of the past.  We have evolved to recognize that moving in together and then getting married if both people see fit, is definitely the way to go. 

What if you get married and once you are living together you cannot stand eachother?  I'm not talking about minor problems that can be solved, or even major problems that can be solved.  You could realize you've made an awful mistake.  Why not realize that before you walk down the isle?  Be smart!  Check out your options before marriage. 

I'm not saying everyone should live together before marriage.  I just don't think it's right to say that that is wrong "according to God".  I don't care if you do not live together before, so you should not care if I do.

Don't even get me started on the "no sex before marriage" nonsense.  Wow.  I can't even imagine how many people get married only to realize there is nothing there physically....

Anyway, do what is right for you, but saving big events until after marriage, in my opinion, is asking for trouble.