Quote From: purplepennyI see what you mean, but that is sort of a stereotype. If I were to do it again I don't know if I'd bother with a legal ceremony. But I do know my husband and I will be together for life...we just like each other too much not to be!
Some people are just against marriage. To legally bind yourself to someone for life, especially if you are young can be a dumb thing to do. People grow and change. You can be committed to someone and then 20 years later you've grown apart...changed, matured. Then there you are, stuck together because the government says you are.
And I have to disagree on the "Commitment is marriage" comment. Marriage is one kind of commitment. It may not mean commitment to some people and to other people it may be the ultimate commitment.
Oh, I agree with all that. I never married. It was never anywhere near the top of my list of priorities, but then I never had kids, so it wasn't as important. I think it's true that some people don't take marriage any more seriously than dating. But for most women dealing with most men, there is hardly a way to measure the man's loyalty and good intentions and motives without having official commitment to use as a barometer.
I certainly agree that way too many people marry too young. I have always pleaded with all my friends who seem to just go from one living arrangement, whether it's roommate or lover, to try just living on their own by themselves for at least a year before they plunge into other arrangements. I have seen in my female friends as well as male (but not as much) that those who feared being alone were the ones who made the most desperately wrong decisions. Everyone needs to gain some confidence in themself that they can be alone without the world crashing in around them. I just really don't believe a person fully develops all their facets if they haven't lived independently for awhile.
