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I have seen the movie and it was a good one, but I think that this marriage is long dead and if he won't go to counseling for help fix it then there is no way that I am going to put forth the effort as when I do I only get stepped on as you can well see by the example of my birthday. He still sees her and if he wanted to be with me he wouldn't continue to see her, so I will go today and see the marriage counselor and if he doesn't show up to try to save our marriage then I will work with the counselor myself on saving my sanity and moving on.   

I have sat back and asked myself ... if you got back together with him, what would change? And I find myself answering ... nothing unless we go together to counseling and learn how to communicate, so unless he is willing to do that I will not put forth another ounce of effort for not.  

Thanks for writing, it means a lot. I was really devistated when he did that to me on my birthday, but realized it wasn't my heart that hurt so much as my pride for believing in him when I knew better.  

Mdearest