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July 26, 2005, 8:24 pm PDT
 Quote From: susan876 parents don't spank because their child is difficult but by their upbringing. Those from spankers often can't be satisfied and drum up a wild child. My uncles and aunts were hit with sticks and some with fists. One hit her husband with a bat and was so mean her children ranawayand one became a sadio-masic suicide. One ranaway became a drunk and commited suicide. One periodically bloodlyed up hers who became a druggie child molester. Anotherraped and one icepick killed someone. They were affection starved from violence and and driven to violent behavior by spankings.A lot were destroyed emotionally and mentally for years.At all levels of violence for three generations they were drove crazy by it. I've never seen occasional hitters or control from it. Friends and neighbors who were like that had kids who lost half their brain to drugs. Several hundred people spouse bashed raved and then drugged kids they ruined. One of the soninlaws hits up and down his kids backbone with his fist.A lot of it was within so called common treatment of children from prospankers. It is addictive for displacing rage and the hell with the child. What you have discribed here is abuse, not a spanking. Now, if I understand your message (correct me if I am wrong,as I am really not sure)you seem to think that those who were spanked end up abusing their own children.And if this is what you are saying, you are dead wrong. I know many people, including myself who was spanked but I have never once abused my children. There is a big difference between a spank on the bottom and abuse. As a matter of fact I was abused in another way, spanking has absolutely nothing to do with the abuse that I encountered as a child, but I do not abuse my children in no way, shape or form.I agree that a child's upbringing can have a great affect on them as they become adults but with love and encouragement, and good role models, they can end the cycle of abuse or whatever went wrong in their home, believe me, I know. And I believe that if one was abused as a child, chances are they will abuse as well, I see it all the time, but thankfully I for one am not an abuser and I love and respect my children more then words can describe and I have absolutely no problem with a parent who spanks and I do agree that spanking can end up in an abuse situation as I believe all forms of positive discipline can end up being abuse. |
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