Quote From: anniemeHELP I WOULD SO GREATLY APPRECIATE IT
Hello, I would so much apprciate any advice and help. My best friend has hurt me badly and I dont know how to confront her. We work at a small office and I am willing to be mature and discuss the issue but not sure she will.
Two years ago her a one of our bosses were working on a huge deal and the deal fell through. My friend was furious at the time because the other company blamed our office and she wrote in GREAT detail who she spoke with date etc. in case a law suit came about. Now two years later there is a lawsuit against our company for breaking contract. Our boss remembers me working with her on the deal. I honestly had nothing to do with it at all. My friend is more than happy to go along with my boss memory I think the boss really doesnt remember My friend has destroyed all the documents..proof..files anything that would have her name on it just so she isnt part of the lawsuit. She has put me in position were I have no proof it wasnt me..not documents to back me up etc. I am more hurt that she would do this to me. Stab me in the back like that. It is very important for me to let her know how deeply she has hurt me. I do remember the facts and she is lying and more than happy to blame me. I truly loved her. I never thought she would do such an evil thing to me. How do I confront her? I pray about this issue daily. I am so hurt. Please help . Thank you.
Is there any proof at all that you WERE involved in the deal? Because if there isn't, except for this "ex-friend's" word, even the word of the "boss", then I'd suggest you counter with the same. As long as there isn't proof, in writing, that you were personally responsible in any way for what the lawsuit is claiming, then it goes both ways.
I'd just write off this person as a friend, too - I know it hurts, having been through something similar to that myself, but this person obviously has no regard for you, and clearly, is not worthy of your friendship. If I were you, I'd tell her straight up - how much you are hurt, and why. Say it much like you wrote it, to the point, direct, and honest.
Good luck.
Julia
