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1.  I don't think it's a turn-off, I just think that people think that there are more traditional ways to find your soul-mate. But who cares what anyone else thinks? I say do what you gotta do to get what you want. I admire your creativity, and your ability to pursue what you want even if it means stepping out of the norm. It definitely beats just giving up, like so many others already have. You are bound and determined to get what you want no matter what anyone else says, and that is GREAT!!! It's only when you give up that you have no hope of getting what you want.

2.   I don't know you, so I couldn't tell you what kind of vibe you are sending out, but at least you are aware that it is a possibility and can examine yourself more closely in social situations to see if that might be the case.

3.   I might be weird, but I am not attracted to guys in suits and the flashy type. I like a man in blue jeans and t-shirt, and dirt under the fingernails doesn't bother me one little bit!

4.   I read something on the internet about that, has something to do with chemistry, very interesting article. Says you exude a certain chemistry, that certain women are attracted to. You should Google it, that's what I did, because I am (WAS) always attracted to the wrong type of guy.

5.   Couldn't answer that one! LOL!! Again, I would have to know you. Do you have any really good female friends that you could ask that and get an honest answer? Sometimes friends don't want to hurt your feelings, so they just tell you what you want to hear, but if there is someone really close to you, that knows you and your ways, maybe if you asked seriously enough they would give you an honest answer?

Also wanna thank-you for stopping by this board. I really think once we get more people here, it would be alot of help for both sexes, so just hang here a while and see what happens! Hope you are having a wonderful Christmas! If that's not what you celebrate then I hope you are just having a wonderful day in general! :)

Thanks for coming up with this board Skwirl!  Now, we just need to have more 'men' come join us...Ti I do find what you say, interesting...Your question #1 - Finding someone, by interviewing does seem unusual to me..but, you know what?  Sometimes, different is good...So, don't worry about it, if what you're wanting to do turns anyone off...I mean, it's your life, and sure there's going to be some that would find something wrong with doing it that way...but, to me, there's all kinds of different ways of meeting ppl...and if this is how you want to do it, it's your right...I have to admit, af first hearing about your idea, made me wonder...but, then I thought some more, and think now perhaps it could be a 'logical' way of meeting someone...I mean, one can go to bars, clubs, etc..but, I myself can't see how one can think they can 'find someone' that way...Just my opinion...So, then how else does one do it then?  Well, for me and maybe this is just from a woman's perspective, but I find that one shouldn't HAVE TO try that hard...Maybe, it's that old traditional thing, that men are the ones that have to go out looking and asking a woman out...When, we as women, just wait till it happens...I don't know...but, for me I never went out looking...is that because I'm a woman?  Like for instance, what do I do on New Years Eve?  sit home?  yeah, maybe...if I want to...do I go out, just for the looking?  no....I just go and do the things I love doing...meet ppl, talk to ppl...not with the intention in finding someone...if it happens, it happens...I just like to meet enjoyable ppl, ones I can truly feel comfortable with and enjoys what I have to say, just as much as what they have to say...ppl are going to think what they think Ti, about your approach...don't worry about what others think...I think you just are tired of not meeting the 'right one' for you....you won't/can't seattle, and that's good...I myself, don't like men that wears a business suit either...(but, too if that's their job...and I like the person inside that suit, then clothes don't matter) but, as far as taste...I'm with you Skwirl, I really like a guy with jeans and t-shirt, and comes home from work alittle dirty...it's sexy to me lol...and I like those ones, that have a day old beard...I don't know why you feel you attract the wrong type of women...because, I don't know you either...but, it doesn't matter really...it's who YOU are attracted to, that counts...for instance, IF I were to attract the wrong type of men...I would just say to myself "well that certainly isn't my type'...call it a day...and as far as the moon-eyed stares from gay men, well I don't know where you hang out...but, I think not to take that seriously, I mean I'm sure gay men are just looking themselves...for the one...and I'm sure you get stares from 'straight women', perhaps you just don't it?  OR aren't the ones you want to look your way...I always say, just be yourself...don't try to win ppl over by what all you have, but the person you are...because, if you do that...the right one is certainly going to come your way...I think sometimes too, location could play a part in it...just my idea...Like, if one hangs out in certain places OR does certain things for their entertainment, then that's the ppl they will surround themselves with...I'm a nature person  myself, and I love the mountains...I go to a place called Wrightwood, and I just love the lay back feeling it gives me...You don't feel that L.A. feeling and the rush, rush of life..the town is small, and the ppl are friendly...but, they aren't there necessarily, to pick you up...I mean, you can go to one of those outdoor things, and have a beer or wine, and just sit and enjoy nature...ppl just relax and talk...So, for me, these are the places I like...no one is getting loud and drunk...just casual talk, and no worries about someone trying to 'hit on you'...I don't think you send any visual clue ti, so don't worry about it...just be yourself...let us know how that 'interviewing things goes'....I know for me I'm curious now, I'd kinda like to participant in doing that..sounds interesting....           Dee