Quote From: mommy_angieI will be blunt here - your husbands lifestyle choices when he was younger were not "foolish" -they were criminal. Anyone with several DUI's and drug convictions should never be an adoptive parent. I don't care that it was when he was 18. If all of that happened in his 18th year, he should still be locked up.
I am a little offended that you seem to be feeling wronged. I am also angry that you are minimizing the crimes your husband comitted. Even if your husband is living his life right now, he drove drunk, more that once, and for that, he should never be a parent.
I recently became the mother to my new born grandson and my young daughter and I would have never considered you and your husband for adoption of our baby, had we gone that route.
Your husbands actions could have ended they very lives of babies and children you claim others don't appreciate. I'm sorry you can't be a mom, but maybe doing "anything" to be a mom should have included not being married to a felon.
Maybe your story would inspire young people to not drink and drive. Please keep telling it.
It sounds to me that you are raising your daughter's child so she must not be a saint. Don't get me wrong I respect the fact that she kept the baby and did not take another path.
I too am with a man that has a past felony record. He did not commit a crime against a child, does not drink or do drugs, however we are not able to adopt. I have tried to conceive but have not been able to. It is very expensive to try other methods to conceive when there is no guarantee. It is heartbreaking to hear about parents that abuse and even kill their unwanted children when there are those of us that would give anything to have a chance to raise a child.
I want to say to Barbmayer: I was recently told by a lawyer "nothing is impossible" don't give up!!!
"every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" It sad that someone makes a mistake and society can not forgive them. Thank goodness we at least have a forgiving God.
