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January 6, 2007, 1:06 am PST
 Quote From: outofmymnd Hi everyone,
It's been a long time since I have been here, on the boards that is, but I came back because I need some help.
When I was younger, I was a rail...literally. My largest was 130.....now, I can't get down below 180. ( I am 5ft7in tall) There are a lot of things that have contributed to my weight, first was getting pregnant with my 2nd child. I was considered to be a "high risk" because I had my first at 31 weeks, and she weighed in at 2lbs, and I only gained 10 lbs. My 2nd, I gained 50, he was only 6lbs of that. Since then, I have been overweight. I also got really sick about 6 years ago now, and it took a long time to determine what I have. There are a number of conditions, none of which I will bore you with, but these conditions keep me in constant pain....24/7, among other problems. I am finally on medications that are starting to help, but it still prevents me from anything physical, I pay dearly for what is classified as normal for most. I can accept the illness, I have no choice...the pain is a constant reminder. I have tried to accept myself for what I am now, but it just is not good enough. I don't want to look this way, I don't want to feel this bad about myself anymore, I don't want to avoid mirrors or the cute little clothes that I was able to wear at one point....I want to wear them again.
My dilemma is simple....how do you loose weight when you can't exercise? I can change my eating habits, but you can't loose by not exercising, and I can't without putting myself in a severe flare up, which will keep me immobile for days. The medications that I am on can only do so much, I can't depend on them to keep me going....I have to "pace myself". Even vacuuming is out of the question.
I do hope that there is someone here that is in the same boat.....and has the same issues. I need some insight, and I definitely need someone who has some suggestions, or can offer anything that may help. I have Dr Phil's book, but I got frustrated as it doesn't touch on the issues that I have, at least not what I have read. I am however going to the bookshelf where it has sat for a few years.
My almost 18 year old is also overweight now, and I am afraid that she is following my footsteps, she shows signs of having the same conditions as I do, and I want her to stop her destructive behaviour before it is too late......at least the weight anyways.
Looking forward to hearing from someone that can help!! Tammy If we focus on what we can't do, we have a hard time seeing what we can do. It sounds like you want to be physical. Well, go swimming. I know a bathing suite may not be the choice piece of clothing right now, but remember it is about you not the idiots that might think or even say something to their idiot friend who is willing to listen. Is there any other reason that could keep you from the pool? Many people lose weight without exercising [not that I recommend it]. I guess the thing to that is realizing that our body doesn't need much if we are just sitting around all morning, evening and night. There is a lady that lives my me that is overweight and has a pin in her knee and other stuff [plus she smokes] and she gets around in a skooter. I see her walking outside once in a while, even though it hurts. I am not telling you to suck it up and go for a walk. I am saying each person knows [or should know] their limit. If you are within yours and know it [truthfully in your heart], then stop feeling guilty about your activity level. Remember there are bed ridden people that lose weight. Most are probably either too ill to eat, have their food controlled or in a coma. The don't have a choice. You have a choice as to what and when and how you eat. You can do it. Search deep within and find out what is going on there. If you try to deal with this at the surface and success will only be temporary. Enjoy Dr. Phils book. Thank you, writing you encouraged me. I hope I was of some help to you. Regards, Terri |
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