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Or if women want to put their ideas out there too...I was in a long-term relationship, that ended this past May..it's all behind me now, but I still find myself with questions...not as much now...but, sometimes one reflects back...especially, with this year ending...My ex had problems with commitment..(marriage etc) Strange that once I ended it, in the whole 9 yrs..(first 6 yrs. then yrs. went by and another 3 yrs.) he NEVER proposed or even talked about it much..it wasn't until I finally was through, he said 'marry me'...in a email..lol...but, I never could take him seriously...and when he did finally ask (even if in a email) I realized I wouldn't...even if it was a big romantic proposal...because, I guess I was through...he put me through too much, and love was gone after that...but, I found I'm good now...actually, I find experiences like that, no matter how they turn out..even if you go through so much pain, I think it's good in a way..it makes you stronger...just be careful with bitterness, but I'm actually better for going through it...I have no bitterness...actually, I'm happier...But, my question is guys..and I've ask this before on other boards..but, why is it a guy can't take you back home, to meet mom???  He said it was because, his mom deserves to have him all to herself.....and I wanted to just go see her, spend a Thanksgiving all together...that was last Thanksgiving...he kept skipping around the issue...someone, recently told me perhaps he had another woman there..I know for a fact, his first true love was living there...and I never thought about it, because I trust ppl...I ask  him then, lets go another time..then, he would go on and say...well, he couldn't during this time..and that time..when, in the end there wasn't any time left over...he he kept saying, well we'll go but at a different time/date..but, he would never sit down and discuss it with me..he even said, he hated going back to Georgia...he hates the place, etc. etc. etc...I told him his mom is getting old, there's a chance she'll pass away and I won't even get to see her...PPl have told me, that it was another excuse for not commiting to me...but, really it was the fact he could hurt me like that...I ask  his best friend, but he said that my ex just was strange about that...even his friends, didn't understand what the mystery was...he told me (gave me another excuse) that IF I were there, that's all he would think about is me...and I told him, that we (him and I) would together do things for his mom...spending time all together...I even said, I'd stay in a hotel..and giving him lots of time alone with his mom, that all I wanted was Thanksgiving Day and perhaps go to church together...he still came up with excuses...and he said I just needed to understand, and I told him I couldn't...he also, in the relationship called me names, which he said he wasn't directing it towards me)...????  he was insecure...he didn't like me to  have any conversations with the opposite sex, and yet he could..even have girl/friends...he was hurt badly with an ex himself...so, when we had little fights, over the smallest things..he'd say things which were not good...like, once he drank too much at his friends/neighbors..and when we talked on the phone...he said all he wanted was to F...me...things like that..now, I know this doesn't sound good..anyway, I finally had enough...and it's all good now for me...I'm at a happier place..my questions guys, is why do you think he didn't want to take me back home?  Do you think it's possible he did have a woman, he wanted to visit while he was there..as I said, his first love lived there...   Dee