Quote From: blonde_chickAs usual, I agree with Penny. I feel that we tend to see things in the same light. She never said it was integral to her to have to agree on everything. She said NOTHING of the sort. But there are most definitely areas where you can't be 100% opposite. Her example was perfect. Now how on earth can a couple be happy together with one who has strong religious beliefs, and the other is athiest? What if a child was brought into the world on those terms? How would they raise this child? Could you imagine the pain and suffering everyone would have to endure because these two people "see the word differently." It's so much more than that in many cases!!!! THINK ABOUT IT!!!!!!
No example is perfect. If anything, a child brought into a situation where there are two different beliefs would have the benefit of two different viewpoints. Think about that.
Why is it that you can't have fundamental differences with someone and still love them for who they are. Who they are hasn't really changed, just how they see the world. It seems like she was saying that if you have MASSIVE differences, yo u can't EVER reconcile them.
I remember from my Developmental Psychology class (I don't remember which book off hand, but if you google it, you can find anything) about diferent stages in marriage and the happiness levels according to milestones (having children, empty nesting, etc.).
There are always ways to respect fundamental differences without losing love and respect for someone.
