Quote From: allierosI do not not how to deal with the fact that my MS has changed my body.
I have always thought i was an attractive person,now i look in the mirror ever day my face is still the same but my body is not.My whole right side from head to toe is skinner than the left my legs are kinda twisted looking,yes i still can walk and am thankful for that, I have to use a cane and where an AFO on my right foot I look like a drunk when i walk i hate it ,,it is ugly.I cant where sandals or boots or where a skirt.never will where a bikini again,my stomach and my behind have these bruises and red areas on them from giving my self shoots...Even when my husband says iam still just as sexy,,,I cant help to wonder what he his looking at because i just don't see it any more its gone.
Hello allieros,
I have an advantage here, because I've been disabled all my life. So I'm used to the way a disability can deform parts of your body. I've never been handsome so I understand that it is different and more difficult for you to accept your body changes.
Especially because - correct me please if i'm wrong - the American society is severely concentrated on looks. I get that idea from looking at the Dr. Phil and the Oprah Show a lot.
While writing this, I remember a girl from school (years ago). She was a very attractive girl, but had a horrible personality. I guess it comes down again to the old cliché that it's not the body that count's. It's your personality.
I know that this is not what you want to hear. Believe me, I totally get that. However, I can tell you that although that I am not handsome (a plastic surgeon that had to correct all my body problems could retire after doing so) I am very proud of the person I am. I may not look like a movie star, but I know I'm a good person. I try to contribute to our society as much as can be expected of me, and I like to think that I am a worthy person. I have a very good self-esteem because I managed to do a lot more things in life than most people around me expected from me. That gives me a good feeling. Not that I showed people I could do more, but that I exceeded what I thought were my own limitations.
Don't invest too much energy in your looks. Beauty is a horrible investment, as anybody - even the hottest looking model - will lose it in a couple of years time. Your personality is a much safer and more stable investment. Use your energy for that. People will notice, and totally forget your looks.
I have a very good friend. She looks a lot like Tyra Banks, so it's safe to say that she is a fantastic looking lady. Knowing her for 16 years now, that is not the first thing I notice about her. What makes me smile when I think about her, is the great, long deep going conversations we had and still have, and the great friend she is to me, in good and in bad times. And although she looks a million times hotter than I do, she has a lot pleasure in taking me to dinner, or accompany me otherwise. She does not feel uncomfortable at all to be seen with me in public. She looks at my other qualities. So, don't be afraid that all people will judge you because of your body changes. If they do, they're not worth to be your friend.
Mikao
