Quote From: ruthiegHave you been to a doctor and been diagnosed? If you haven't, then I strongly suggest that you do. Does your husband help you with the housework? Just between you and me, it's probably for the best if he doesn't make any more jokes or say anything. Because you are the butt of his jokes(no pun intended), and they are not funny if they are hurtful.
Does your husband help with the baby at all? Does he spend time bathing it or changing its(I don't know if you've got a boy or a girl) nappy(that's Australian for diaper)? If not, why not? Your husband did have something to do with creating your child, so he should have something more to do with the care of it and not leave it all up to you. Plus the housework. That's asking too much in this day and age.
One more thing. Just yourself a break, you've just had a baby. You are exhausted, caring for a beautiful small human being. Make your husband take his child for a while so you can have some time to yourself and take a bath or something else nice. But, above all, go to a doctor and tell them everything. The doctor should be able to help you more than we can here. I will be a shoulder for you to cry on, but that's about all I can do for you. Most of all, take care of yourself. Bye from Australia.
Ruthieg
PPD can effect more then the Mother too!! I am 26 and I was diagnosed with PPD with my 1st child when she was 9mns old!!(she is now 2.5) It was actually my co-workers who reconized it!! AS I sat on the floor at my work place with a crying baby, trying to put on a "i'm the happiest mom ever" face, I broke down...I have never cried like I did that day. I went to the doctors that afternoon and he had me an appointment with a psychiatrist the next day!! And through many appointments and finding that I do need the help of meds I am a changed MOM! But it took ALOT of courge and support and time to get were I am today!!
I ,too thought that it was just my body and my mind getting back to the "norm" after having a baby. (I mean I wasn't sad all the time, when I was sleeping I wasn't sad!!) I am a daycare teacher, I deal with crying infants, tempertantrum toddlers and preschoolers who have a an answer for everything, so for me to be having these feelings and thoughts were very confusing. "Why can't I be happy to be with my baby, why do other new moms say they are SOOO happy and having a baby was the best thing that happened to them!! Are they crazy I thought, what have I done, having this baby has made everything worse, and if one more mother or women tells me how much she loved becoming a mother, i'm gunna sceam!! I'M NOT HAPPY!! "
If this has your attention now, and you are nodding your head and saying" yeah i feel that way too" its time to talk to someone outside of your relationships with your baby and your husband. Someone with "clear eyes" its a big step that only you, deep down in your heart of hearts knows needs to be done!! Baby blues are normal, but if they last longer then 2weeks, even if you have one good day a week, it could very well be PPD!
I wish you the best, because nobody knows how it feels to feel the way you do!! And talking and seeking the proper help will get you back to being you!!
At the begining I said that PPD effects more then the mom too, cuz it does.Your husband can be feeling the symptoms of PPD too!!! I know my did and yes it is different, because they didn't have the baby, so thier horemons didn't change, but the world around them did!!
I hope this has shed some light for you, and hopefully helped you and your husband
jaime.....from Canada
