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September 15, 2005, 8:46 am PDT
Dont u be so hard on yourself
Quote From: snowbabe64
I am struggling to sort myself out before I burn out. We have a great relationship when we spend time alone together but this seems to be getting to be none existent. I work two jobs trying to get 40 hours a week and then do so much running with children, I am exhausted when I make it home to start my home 'job'. My husband is unable to work and so is at home fulltime and I want him to take more of a part in the household, but since the older children are from another marriage-and there is stress between them-and only the youngest one is his, there is a resistance to that. He enjoys outdoor things, which is great as I can't do that as well as household duties but we do live inside. I have asked that we have some us time, even if it is doing jobs, but he complains that I spend too much time with the youngest and so there isn't enough time for him. I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. When I have a day off through the week, I expected to spend some time together and ended up alone as he was elsewhere. I begin to doubt myself and wonder if I am not as 'interesting' as I once was. Surely I can't be washed up already? You are a strong, hard working woman by the sound of it and you need to stop being hard on yourself. You are working 2 jobs, handling a household and kids. It sounds as if your husband is very self centered like mine is. Everything is me, me, me. Is the youngest child yours? And not his? He needs to get over it. I sympathize with you. I feel the same thing, except you are doubting yourself and I'm not. I know that being a good mom to your child is everything and if the men in out lives cant understand that, then they need to grow up...big time...
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