You should not feel guilty - you can not help to whom you are attracted. If the right black man came along and provided you with things you are looking for in a relationship then you probably would not exclude him just because he is black. Would you? That would be "turning your back on black men". You have your preference but are not ignorant enough to exclude someone just because of his race is hopefully your stance. You might find my own personal entry of interest. Look it up. Good luck and I hope that you find the support that you need. What this world needs is kind, loving, and supportive passengers, not people filled full of road rage. We are all on the same journey to find happiness, but who are we to judge one another for taking a different path as long as there is no real harm to another.