Quote From: fabof3Yes, you go girl!!
I want to respond to Genny2 also You want to sit there and complain about your stepson this is awful. This should really not be your problem. Perhaps he does not want to be raised by a feeling less overweight smoker who doesnt want to believe anyone could possibly have it worse than yourself. You seem to be resentful of this boy for whatever reason; I would have to agree with your HUSBANDS CHILD on this, I would not want to live with you either. You say your little girl is the light of your life?? Ok, I get that but why is the other 2 your grown child and your HUSBANDS child not in that equation. I have 2 step children, they are wonderful, I have 3 of my own and I love them differently yes, but in no way would I choose one over the other... that is just wrong.
I think you should have some empathy here for this young man. YOU HAVE BEEN THERE YOURSELF, perhaps you are just as I said too stuck in your own pain to recognize that this child HAS THE RIGHT TO HURT FOR HIS MOTHER who I am sure loved him very much and would never allow anyone to blame him for bad behaviors due to a PAINFUL DEATH. I am so angry with your statements AND YOUR BEHAVIOR WHAT CAN YOUR HUSBAND CHILD BLAME THAT ON? YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THIS CHILD THE LAST THING HE NEEDS IN HIS LIFE AT THIS POINT IS A SELF SERVING, NEGATIVE, HATEFUL, RESENTFUL ( I can go on) STEP PERSON (I dont even want to use the term step parent you have not earned it in my book!!) I HOPE HE CAN GET WHAT HE NEEDS FROM HIS AUNT!! CLEARLY YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF GIVING HIM ANYTHING WORTH WHILE AT THIS TIME.Dr. Phil needs to kick your butt!! You ought to be ashamed of yourself for pouting and whining about your pitiful life you have made choices and they have landed you right where you are!! On a kinder note I think it is good you are asking for help, although it should be for YOU not your HUSBANDS CHILD.
You may find that you earned it yourself. I am sure you could have found constructive ways to tell someone you think her focus is in the wrong place. And it is a very good idea, as well. There is no one who never acts in a selfish matter. Would you want to be told you were a bad person or even a "non-person" instead of being told you made a bad decision?
