Quote From: twogirlshappyI have 2 daughters of my own. There is a little boy that is in my class who is foster care now and will be up for adoption coming up this year. My husband wants to adopt him but I do not. This little boy has been sexually abused and I worried about my own two girls. I need to protect them. He also has 2 younger sisters of his own. I cannot take all of them and I feel he needs to be with his sisters. My husband says that I am being selfish and we should take him in. I see problem children everyday in my class and this little boy is already in therapy (and has some other delays) and probably will be for the rest of his life. I don't know if I am strong enough to handle all of that. I am still getting over losing a child 3 years ago. I don't what to replace my baby with another child from off the street. Am I being selfish? If not, how can I make my husband understand how I feel? I have told him all this but he still thinks it is because I am being so selfish. I applaud him for being so caring towards a child like this but I can't get him to understand and it is causing serious problems with our marriage. Please help.
Please know that this is NOT intended to be cruel or slam you in anyway, but...
If you are referring to your daughters, as 'of my own', you probably are no where near ready to adopt. So, I would hope that you don't give in to your husband's desire, until and IF you ever get to the point where you realize how saying 'of my own' sounds and feels to anyone involved in adoption, whether be an adoptive parent, or an adopted child. If you give in and are not ready, there's a chance that this child will always feel 'not of your own' and that is not fair to him.
Again, not trying to offend, but point out a glaring red flag to me.
